How to be a better loser ?
How to be a better loser ?
I’ve seen how intense gaming frustration can get. When I realize I’m losing my cool, I shut off the game. At times I don’t even save my progress—just stop playing right away. The last time this happened was a few days ago while playing Super Mario Galaxy. I was frustrated because I couldn’t defeat the annoying spider boss, Tarantox. I ended the game in the middle. The next day I managed to beat it again. The takeaway? Step back. Give yourself a break. It often helps.
I believe I discovered how to control my anger. When I was playing DS3 (my first Souls game), I lost against Pontiff Sulyvan after three hours. I don’t get angry much, but I became really tired trying and then felt the frustration, so I stopped. My biggest worry is that I’ll feel embarrassed if I lose against another team when I was completely alone, making mistakes and so on. But the day after, I played some Evolve games and it went fine. I didn’t lose; I made a few mistakes but recognized them. Still, I still get that stress feeling whenever I have to pick a monster, I don’t understand why.
I don’t focus much on winning or losing and usually play with a group of 3 or 4 friends. I don’t get too upset when I lose as long as I give my best. Sometimes I just try things out of curiosity—like using the phantom bow in BF4 because it’s fun, or doing silly stuff just for enjoyment.
I think it’s useful to just smile, even though it seems silly. When you lose—whether because you were outmatched or someone is playing too strong or cheating—it really helps to stay positive and keep a light attitude. There’s nothing worth gaining from dwelling on defeat or blaming others.